marți, 25 ianuarie 2011


Sometimes being bored does something good to a person. At least it did for me. While finished with my chores I found nothing else to do so I spent my spare moment reading a book. While reading, some of its pages, I found a very interesting topic. Although I no longer have a young teenager I thought that maybe it would be of help if I wrote it down on this blog for mothers who have teenage daughters. The topic was quite long so I sort of summarized it. I picked up things that were utterly important. It reads…………………
Sometimes, teenagers are propelled into early marriages, a pitiable situation caused by their own parents who don’t realize what they are doing. There are teenage marriages that worked well, but most often than not, they become to be disastrous premature marriages. In many cases, the initial push comes from the parents. It is mother or father who indulges her teenage daughter on all her whims. Mothers defend their attitudes that “times have changed.” “Our children are growing up faster too. Early socializing is here to say so we had better accept it.” Other women argue that pre-teen dancing improves social poise; boys and girls “get used” to each other so that by the time dating begins in earnest, there will be a minimum of awkwardness. They want their children to have all the fun and advantages they themselves missed. Included in this book are helpful tips for mothers who have young teenagers:
  • Understand that early dating is dangerous even if everyone is doing it. Have the courage to take a firm stand against it.
  • Neither permit nor encourage a hectic social life for the eleven to fourteen year olds. Remember that the best advantage you can give a young girl is the ability to be self-reliant. And she can learn this only by having time to be alone and at peace, just with and by herself.
  • De-emphasize things too sophisticated for a young girl. When girls get together with boys, discourage the imitation of adults and encourage activities appropriate to their ages. Refuse to permit parties where the boys bring their own girls.
  • Make your daughter feel it’s great to be just what she is. A child who is unhappy in her age group looks forward to the next one, where things may be better. As she grows, express your deep interest in what she is doing. Praise efforts and accomplishments warmly and often.
  • Make her home an attractive, inviting, happy place. Many young girls marry early to escape from an unhappy home.
There are no easy answers to the problems created by too early marriage. But it is clearly necessary to face the blunt truth that young lives may well be wrecked unless brakes are applied to the steady march of child-women toward the altar.
Hope I didn’t step on anyone’s foot. Hope you like this article because I do think it to be very informative.

Flower of life

This in response to Flower of Life's Tag on me. Hope not too late. Anyway here are the questions:....

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what did you think?
Boy! am I getting old!!! What have you done to yourself?

2. How much cash do you have on you?:

3. What's a word that rhymes with "TEST"?:

4. Favorite planet?:
Earth though not as beautiful as you it may seem to you but this is where I am existing.

5. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone?:
Just cleared my call lists

6. What is your favorite ring on your phone?:
Not really my favorte - Dancing Queen - it's just there and it seems to be okay.

7. What shirt are you wearing?:
Right at this very moment? Green Tshirt

8. Do you "label" yourself?:

9. Name the brand of your shoes you're currently wearing now:
Right this very moment, I’m wearing sandal slippers now.

10. Bright or Dark Room?:
Dark. More conducive for sleeping.

11. What do you think about the person who took this survey before you?
Don't personally know her but she seems to be nice.

13. What were you doing at midnight last night?

14. What did your last text message you received on your cell say?:

15. Where is your nearest 7-11?:
On a corner outside our Village.

16. What's a saying(s) that you say a lot?:
Life can only be understood backwards but is lived forwards.

17.Who told you they loved you last?:
That’s funny!! Come to think of it, no one.

18. Last furry thing you touched?:
A cat

19. How Many days of school did you miss this week:
Pass. Not schooling.

20. How many rolls of film do you need to get developed?:
Camera is digital.

21. Favorite age you have been so far?:

22. Your worst enemy?:
The heat.

23. What is your current desktop picture:

24. What was the last thing you said to someone?:
Time to eat.

25. If you had to choose between a million bucks or to be able to fly, which would you choose?:
Think I'd be crazy to choose fly instead of million bucks..

26. Do you like someone?:
Yes of course!

27. The last song you listened to?:
Because of You

28. Carmen Electra or Pam Anderson?:


Everybody I’m sure know what gratitude means. Do we really know how to express it? Gratitude is the art of receiving gracefully, of showing appreciation for every kindness, great and small. Most of us do not fail to show our pleasure when we receive hospitality, gifts and obvious benefits, but even here we can perfect our manner of showing gratitude by making it as personal and sincere as possible. Nothing hurts the one who gives so much as an offhand expression of thanks. Gratitude is sometimes more than a personal affair. It is a confirming thought that gratitude can be not merely a passing sentiment but a renewal which can, in some instances, persist for a lifetime. It is above all, in the little things that the grace of gratitude should be most employed. Nothing brightens life – our own and others’ – so much as the spirit of thanksgiving. Gratitude is something of which none of us can give too much. For on the smiles, the thanks we give, our little gestures of appreciation, our neighbors build up their philosophy of life.
Many of us say thank you when receiving something. Do we say thank you just for saying it or do we really make it mean what it really means? Do we say thank you emphasized by a smile?

Another post

In this era of world wars, in this atomic age, values have changed. We have learned that we are the guests of existence, travelers between two stations. We must discover security within ourselves. During our short span of life we must find our own insights into our relationship with the existence in which we participate so briefly. Otherwise, we cannot live!! This means, as I see it, a departure from the materialistic view of the nineteenth century. It means a reawakening of the spiritual world, of our inner life, of religion. I don’t mean religion as a dogma or as a church, but as a vital feeling.

Tag from Just Puremoods:

Grab the nearest book. Open the book to page 123. Find the fifth sentence. Post the text of the sentence with these instructions. Don’t search around and look for the “coolest” book you can find. use the book nearest to you
My answer:
A cheque was mailed and Hyde's long wait for publication entered the home stretch.



When I was in my teens, I always dreamt of the ideal man in my life. Naturally, he would be handsome, intelligent and gentle. But the essential thing about him was that he would understand me. He would listen to all my innermost thoughts not only my hopes and fond desires but my darkest moods and memories, my sorrows and sins. But never did I envision myself to listen to him in return. I would find him dear because he would understand and accept me. Never did I, in my dream think that I would understand and accept him too.
In our adult life, many of us perhaps feel that they have the right, almost an obligation to express to the people closest to them their doubts, fears, ugliest or most pessimistic thoughts. We have this thing that we say it’s better to let out all your problems with someone closest to you. For me, I don’t think we have such right to do so, to indulge in total self-revelation to those we love and who love us. Intimacy between any two loving human beings should have limits because by ignoring such limits, we do so selfishly, out of our own immature desire to shift our burden onto the other person. If your own secrets oppresses your own heart, how can you expect the heart of another to endure it?
An example would be a husband’s infidelity towards his wife. When a husband has extra marital affair, he may be nagged by guilt. Some even wishes their wife to find out so he could confess and ask for forgiveness. If ever and when this happens, he frees himself of pain by transferring it to her. He is healed while she suffers. His secret has shattered her peace of mind. Why do people make such revelations to those who love them?
Friends may be destroyed by too much intimacy. Friendship involves a blessed freedom to be truthful about ourselves, but, like all freedoms, this one must be exercised with restraint. Conscious and unconscious feelings of guilt are aroused when friends know too much about us. Self revelation to an intimate is unwise, if not downright dangerous. We must set limits to intimacy, not only for our own good but for the good of those we love.


This was what I felt last Sunday when I went for my groceries. A holdup!!!! Yes you read it right. A Holdup!!!! Grocery prices did really go up. I felt like we the end users are being robbed of our basic needs. Manufacturers and sellers know that no matter what the cost be, we the end users will purchase it as they are part of our daily existence and can’t live without them. On the other hand they’re right. Maybe some items we may be able to forego but the very basic needs we definitely can’t do without. So there you go--- we are their willing victims that fall into their hands. How about the budget we have been making for the whole month to end up finding out that the budget we have, won’t be able to buy all the things that are listed down on our grocery lists and they are the same lists we had last month. I only do my grocery once a month so any increase in prices between these dates is quite a shock to me especially when your budget for this month is already done..
I know things go up as progress go on, but this is just too much. Our government says economy is doing well. I wonder whose economy are they talking about. Not for us average income earners. What more for the low income group. I guess it does for them but not for us end users. I wonder how much would our basic needs be for the next 10 years. Even facilities like water, electricity, telephone, liquefied petroleum gas (cooking gas) and even gasoline boy! – they sure are costly now-a-days. Wouldn’t it be sad to say that things might go back to the old days where people cook using coal, wood, candles and gas lamps for light and bicycle like in China instead of cars. I am puzzled as to what kind of life would this be?
Well, I guess I’ll have to see when that day comes. 


I'VE BEEN TAGGED by Bozette of Life My Way
The Three Meme

3 Names You Answer To
* Friday's Child
* lifran
* lin

3 Parts of Your Heritage
* British
* Filipino
* Japanese

3 Things That Scare You
* Kind of death
* Snake
* Become a vegetable

3 Everyday Essentials
* Coffee
* Eating
* Time for rest

3 Things You’re Wearing
* Reading Glasses
* Navy blue shorts
* Yellow & Red Tshirt

3 Favorite Songs (these are only among the many)
* Because of You
* Rainbow
* Are You Lonesome Tonight

3 Things About the Opposite Sex that Appeals to You
* Honest
* Organized
* Keeps promises

3 Things You Want in a Relationship
* Love
* Thoughtful
* Patient

3 Favorite Hobbies
* Playing the organ
* Computer games(SIMS)
* Cross stitching

3 Things to Do Before You Die
* Fulfill a dream
* Make amends to those I need to
* See people I love change their attitudes

3 Ways You’re Stereotypically Female (or Male)
* I wear a bra
* I'm fickle minded
* I have a reproduction organ

2 Truths & 1 Lie (no particular order)
* I can fly
* I can play more than 200 pieces in the organ
* I have been married for 30 years only to 1 man

3 People You’re Tagging
* Trinity 13 of Dodge this
* Viamare of Nightingale
* Mumbo Jumbo (Connie & Rob)


Personality……do we really know the kind of personality we really have. We may have tried many tests that sometimes the internet or magazine offers but are we really true to ourselves in answering the questions. When results come out not to your advantage do we change our answers immediately to satisfy our desires? Can we really express ourselves very well? Are we or are we not inhibited to some things? I think many of us do have some inhibitions we have acquired from our past. I for one admit having inhibitions too that I find difficult to completely remove from my system. The only person I know who does not have any inhibitions nor have the difficulty in expressing himself is a baby. Why you may ask? Because a baby has no qualms about expressing himself. He expresses his real feelings in of course his own way like crying or cooing. He is not a bit inhibited because he is, at this stage, without self consciousness. He will remain like this until the age where he comes into communication with other human beings. Sometimes or more often than not, it is our conscience that makes us cowards against trying many things. Our inhibitions can make or destroy our future. We are seemingly and forever afraid of what “other people may think” in what we do or say.
If as a child your were told that self-expression may be morally wrong and was punished for speaking up or showing off or punished for showing anger, or shamed for showing fear, then surely this child will grow up to believe that experiencing such emotions are wrong. An opinionated child who is frequently scolded every time he comes up with his own opinion or us, will grow up thinking that it is right to be a nobody.
Many are suffering unhappiness and failure because of these inhibitions.
Having reached this age that I am now, I still have inhibitions that I have not completely removed from my system. I have learned to lessen this inhibitions a bit which had helped me move on forward to a much better place to live and work in. Of course I do still have to learn more about practicing in being less careful, less concerned, less conscientious. Don’t get me wrong. I didn’t say not to be concerned, conscientious, I just meant to lessen it. To think of yourself first before others. To do what you want to do irregardless of what people may say. It’s quite difficult to do it with the kind of society we are living in, but for your sake and mine, we can maybe try it. We have gone this far already so I don’t think there’s any harm in doing so. Have you ever asked or told yourself this? “I wonder if I should have done that,” “ Maybe I shouldn’t have said that,” “Maybe what I said or did might be taken the wrong way by the person concerned.” Then these are inhibitions?
St. Paul”s advice to the Philippians: “Be careful for nothing,” and follow these principles:
1) Don’t wonder in advance what you are going to say. Just open your mouth and say it. Improvise as you need to. 2) Don’t think before you act. Act and correct your actions as you go along. Seems difficult to do isn't it? I have been taught since I was young to be careful with what I say so it would be quite difficult for me to do this.
The great contemporary philosopher Alfred North Whitehead says: “From the moment of birth, we are immersed in action, and can only fitfully guide it by taking thought.”